tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post5637361448779314813..comments2024-03-17T02:14:31.440-07:00Comments on The day flew by so fast it was a blur...: GuiltyBlur Tinghttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07792543153416871887noreply@blogger.comBlogger11125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-28331005633339538642008-03-25T11:41:00.000-07:002008-03-25T11:41:00.000-07:00Hello That is sad to hear how ill Ting can be. She...Hello <BR/><BR/>That is sad to hear how ill Ting can be. She'll appreciate the concerns for her diet when she's older!<BR/><BR/>I agree that a little bit of guilt is a good thing. Otherwise how would we know when to stop?! That's what I think when I know I have to put the cheese / chocolate down!The World According To Mehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06877147634501360129noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-91431881977576494782008-03-25T10:45:00.000-07:002008-03-25T10:45:00.000-07:00Based on my friends' experiences, it's REALLY toug...Based on my friends' experiences, it's REALLY tough to get out of these types of "prisons", esp. if you were brought up so strongly with some "idealisms" or whatever you may call it.<BR/><BR/>It's even harder to break out of it when you don't even realize that it's there, but even when you're grown up and you realize it's there, on your darkest days you know it's still haunting you.<BR/><BR/>I agree with Mother Hen that it's hard to break, since it takes discipline and SO MUCH effort and focus to do it. <BR/><BR/>One friend of mine told me that it was impossible to break (since it was related to her parents)...but I know that another friend managed to break out from one prison and I'm SO HAPPY for her 'coz of that. ;-DAmelhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16792921371964029469noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-80104243011230412112008-03-25T09:35:00.000-07:002008-03-25T09:35:00.000-07:00Ting, you turned out perfect! So will she.Ting, you turned out perfect! So will she.Mike Minzeshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17475218626898693458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-58666871386526657452008-03-25T04:43:00.000-07:002008-03-25T04:43:00.000-07:00You've got many good points Soul. Don't worry. Tin...You've got many good points Soul. <BR/><BR/>Don't worry. Ting gets her treats in moderation. It's difficult to turn her down because she will keep negotiating for one more, and one more...<BR/><BR/>Like you, I admit I'm too indulgent with my own kids. Can't help it. :-) <BR/><BR/>Good thing my parents never restricted my food but we ate only healthy stuff. There was no junk food at home. I didn't taste coffee until I was 20. <BR/><BR/>I felt guilty immediately because I thought it would ruin my health :-) <BR/><BR/>Now I can't live without it!Blur Tinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07792543153416871887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-26497655683847246902008-03-25T04:16:00.000-07:002008-03-25T04:16:00.000-07:00motha hit it right on-- but then again so did you....motha hit it right on-- but then again so did you.<BR/><BR/>it is never easy to change the patterns that we grew up with-- it takes a lot of strength within ourselves to realize what was right and wrong-- and how we want or need to raise our own kids to make them happy---or not. sometimes we do go overboard in one direction or another in that--<BR/><BR/>maybe instead of taking all the goodies away-- tell her moderation is best and let her keep a little??<BR/><BR/>in my case-- i know i have been too lenient on my girl-- due to my mom being too strict.<BR/><BR/>i don;t think any parent is ever satisfied with how we do things with our kids-- because when they "fail" or are unhappy-- we "feel it" and we see it as "our fault" that we should have done something diferent or better.<BR/><BR/>we are human, and can only do what we know. and when we come from a home that had problems such as yours--or mine-- or others worse even still-- how do we know what's right?? we do the best we can...and it can only be good enough. right?<BR/><BR/>from my standpoint blur-- i see you doing a great job with your kids--- they are sensitive happy loving children...<BR/><BR/>let the kid have a cookie-- :))<BR/><BR/>and have a happy tuesday!!! umm.. or wednesday--SOULhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14096155256030485739noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-18168792265220768462008-03-25T03:03:00.000-07:002008-03-25T03:03:00.000-07:00Yah, that's true also. A little guilt is good for ...Yah, that's true also. A little guilt is good for the conscience.Blur Tinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07792543153416871887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-52664817262045726202008-03-25T01:36:00.000-07:002008-03-25T01:36:00.000-07:00Awww, the poor little girl, it must be hard to giv...Awww, the poor little girl, it must be hard to give up her bag of goodies. <BR/><BR/>In a strange way, guilt can be a good thing at times cos it keeps us in check a little more ...Nick Phillips (15/03/1967 - 04/11/2022)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01043552434776358684noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-43288679588587371062008-03-24T22:20:00.000-07:002008-03-24T22:20:00.000-07:00JY - I think meeting the right person who can rein...JY - I think meeting the right person who can reinforce the right message is important.Blur Tinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07792543153416871887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-11595633614628088132008-03-24T22:07:00.000-07:002008-03-24T22:07:00.000-07:00MH - You are quite right but we still must start s...MH - You are quite right but we still must start somewhere. I still feel guilty if I eat too much, but I exercise the extra calories off, so I don't feel so bad.<BR/><BR/>I also feel sorry for the kids if I travel for business, so I make up by bringing them on vacation whenever I can.Blur Tinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07792543153416871887noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-64961502761554614282008-03-24T20:24:00.000-07:002008-03-24T20:24:00.000-07:00agreed...with what mother hen said...difficult sub...agreed...with what mother hen said...difficult subject and difficult to break out of..unless you are in a good time and place and/or meet the right person...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4187131513409862167.post-51167926534056031242008-03-24T20:02:00.000-07:002008-03-24T20:02:00.000-07:00This is a tough subject. There's a lot going on i...This is a tough subject. There's a lot going on in here spanning many delicate topics.<BR/><BR/>I doubt the spell is breakable though. You see, one can be enlightened and break a particular spell, yet the "dark side" in all of us will quickly go and create another "spell" for our emotion to feed on. <BR/><BR/>Today the spell is candy, tomorrow the spell is about drinking iced water, another day it is about being sick... oh the list is endless, making it a real challenge for us to say "bye bye" to all these...<BR/><BR/>Excellent blog Ting :)The Real Mother Henhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13226727195920798035noreply@blogger.com