When Amel tagged me to blog about the proudest moment in my life, I was stumped. Is there a particular moment? Perhaps the moment is now.
When I first became a single parent, my biggest fear was how to bring my 2 kids up into well-adjusted adults. I didn’t want them to feel deprived growing up in a so-called ‘broken’ family (yah, that’s the way they like to put it around here).
When our marriage broke down, the design business that we built for 15 years went down together with it. Looking back, the two things were so intricately inter-woven, I can attribute the failure of our marriage partly to the frustrations of running a company together. The stress inevitably caused too many cracks to form in our relationship.
So, I began a new journey on a clean slate with no income, two kids under my wings, very little savings and a pile of debts. Running that business was all I knew and it would be tough for me to get back into the job market. Would I possibly earn enough to feed the kids?
To put it bluntly, I was in pretty bad shape. I suspected some people shunned me, afraid that I would come knocking on their doors. Of course not! Instead I registered a new business and started pounding the pavement. If nothing worked out, I figured I could sell noodles in the hawker centre. It’s not glamourous but I’ve heard of hawkers who slogged away just so that they could send their kids for tertiary education. If they could do it, so can I!
Within a month, my hard work started paying off. I was generating income. Sales grew the next month, and the month after. The friend whom I used to share office with (who had much bigger dreams) scoffed at my little business. It didn’t bother me because as long as I'm able to bring my kids up properly, I don’t need millions!
It has been more than 5 years. I’m still building my business, not resting on my laurels. I am proud to say that the kids have not been deprived of my love and any material needs. I have a wonderful relationship with them.
Whenever my friends comment that my kids are “well brought-up”… that is my proudest moment.