Sometimes mum complains that my dad is not caring or loving towards her. I always jump to his defence. "Of course he cares! He may not bring you out for romantic dinners or make you laugh but he takes really good care of the family. He does everything he can to ensure you have a comfortable home to live in and he even does the marketing. He keeps himself healthy and does little chores. He doesn't interfere with your activities and is always engaged in gardening or home improvement projects. You never have to worry about such things."
Mum would then agree that he's a good man and that being romantic is simply not his forte. Maybe he's behaving like a traditional asian father and he probably can get away with it. Younger women these days will kick up a fuss if they're not given enough attention by their spouse.
I constantly read about bloggers singing high praises of their spouse. One lady is still gushing about how crazily in love she is with her husband of 6 years. From what I gather, he adores and supports her, makes her laugh and giggle daily over silly things, engages in meaningful conversations, gives her foot massages, helps out with the kids and does little projects around the house. He takes her on adventures and his passion for life makes her want to be a better person.
I find it very heartwarming when I read of bloggers who speak so fondly of their husband. Yet, on the other hand, I also worry about setting expectations after that. When you're dating and leading separate lives, you don't have alot of expectations but once both live under the same roof with kids in tow, it's probably a different story.