Thursday 14 February 2008

Happy at last

So Valentine's Day has come and gone and funny enough, I didn't feel a thing. In the past, I would admonish my friends who didn't do anything special for their partner. Not that I've had any memorable Valentine's Day all my life but perhaps I had never experienced true love.

Now I realise we should probably do away with the celebrations. For one, it mostly makes the singles feel miserable. The happily married couples will find the idea of splurging on an overpriced dinner in a pseudo-romantic setting revolting. Unhappy couples will find the day meaningless and extra sad. Others who pay so much to romance their partners feel like suckers. Nobody wins. So what's the hype all about?

When I was married, I never received any flowers or special treatment on Valentine's Day. When I became single again, I looked on wistfully at happy couples, pining for my very own knight in shining armour.

Now that I'm attached, I've come to terms with myself. Though we did not celebrate Valentine's Day last night, I didn't feel like I was missing out. In fact, while other people were busy romancing, I was at the mall with YK. We saw people standing in line at the chocolate stands and flower shops. While the restaurants were packed to the hilt, the foodcourt was quieter than usual during dinner time, we had no trouble getting a table.

I'm happy at last.

11 comments:

mooiness said...

When a couple can be happy doing nothing or something mundane together, or things that don't cost much - that is bliss.

VD is such a silly overblown and commercialised convention. Forced romance is not romantic at all.

The Real Mother Hen said...

VD is too over-rated.
It's an opportunity for young kids to express their love though :)

We are old birds, that's why we can't feel anything :)

Anonymous said...

it means that you are comfortable with each other..without the added distractions...!

WaterLearner said...

I am glad you have finally found this quiet happiness. I guess each and everyone of us has gone through this stage whereby Valentines Day is the most important to have a date or at least be seen with some roses on hand. Haha...

I finished my usual workout yesterday and was on my way home waiting for bus at AMK interchange. I saw an old couple hand in hand and the lady was hold a small bouquet of roses. They were obviously in bliss. Strangely I felt very happy for them. I always admire love that can withstand the challenge of time which in relationship often has this dreaded cousin called Boredom. When couple gets bored with each other, eyes and heart begin to somehow focus on the shortcomings of each other. I find this sad.

You would not believe it. When I saw that lady with flowers, I felt as happy as I was the one receiving them. I think I am crazy.

Blur Ting said...

Yah, it's true Mooiness.
But also must force ourselves to do something special from time to time or else it is becomes boring and we take each other for granted.

Blur Ting said...

Hey MH, I haven't head the term 'old birds' for quite a while now :-)

Blur Ting said...

JY - you're quite right. too comfy... not exciting...

Blur Ting said...

Water - you've got everything summarised so well and no, you're not crazy at all. It is very heartwarming to see old couples who still adore each other after all the years. I usually let out a blissful sigh when I see such things too :-)

J@n!ce said...

How nice to be able to get a seat at the food court. It is usually the other way round :)

Amel said...

CHEERS to happiness!!!

Valentine's Day didn't start to be commercialized in Indonesia until about a few years ago. Thus I have never felt that it was a part of life in Indonesia. It sure is nice to be reminded to do something special for our loved ones, but it's better to try to make every day Valentine's Day instead of splurging on one day.

Unknown said...

another great post, ting.

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