Tuesday 30 October 2007

Breaking up is hard to do

I have been thinking about this lately. Nooo.. I'm not breaking up with anyone but on days when I'm feeling blue, I equate it to what being broken-hearted feels like.... when melancholy and despair fill every single pore in your body.

I have been through bad breakups before and don't wish that upon anyone, especially my own kids. Now that they are in their teens, they're going to experience the exhilaration of falling in love one day. We all know that falling in love as a teenager is more intense than the experience in adulthood. Unfortunately these early relationships usually burn out quickly too. This is where they'll need to learn how to survive a breakup.

Afterall, there's nothing much one can do for it all boils down to science actually. Flushed cheeks, a racing heart beat and clammy hands are some of the outward signs of being in love. But inside the body there are definite chemical signs that cupid has fired his arrow.

When it comes to love it seems we are indeed at the mercy of our biochemistry, involving chemicals from testosterone and oestrogen to neuro-transmitters called 'monoamines' and hormones inside us.

When the love is gone, another set of chemicals takes over. Being in love is complicated? You bet! Can they still be friends with an ex? Well, that's another story for another day....

break up miss you

5 comments:

Anonymous said...

friends with an ex...all i can say is that for me...it'd be extremely hard to do!

The Real Mother Hen said...

Oohhhh this is a subject that everyone can relate to and have a few stories to tell...
And it is also a subject that we really learn and grow.
Good blog Ting! :)

The World According To Me said...

Hi Blur Ting

I could write a book regarding unsuitable boyfriends and break ups!
I'm still searching with a hopeful heart for true love and romance! But I'm extra cautious these days.

Amel said...

Hi, Blur!

Ahhhh...love stories...well, you live you learn I guess he he he...

Anonymous said...

Well, I think its possible, but rare for it to be healthy over a really long period of time. I'm talking good friends. Not just on good terms.