In Singapore, men these days show their affection for their partners by carrying their handbags. I'm not talking about daddies carrying nappy bags or wifey's floral weekend totes, but young men toting cutesy handbags on their shoulder.
I couldn't stop sniggering when I saw a big Hulk of a man carrying his girlfriend's tiny handbag the other day. She was nowhere in sight but the image of him hanging on to the delicate little bag was ridiculous. The visual was just so wrong. What's up with our men these days?
I would never make CH carry my handbag. Well, even if I did, my androgynous looking totes would make him look metrosexual instead of sissy. Maybe I belong to the independent group of women who dislike being the helpless damsel in distress. Perhaps I have not been given the opportunity to be one. My parents, who were too busy to molly-coddle us, taught us to be independent from young.
In Singapore, finding a date who opens doors for ladies is like searching for a needle in the haystack. Our men are just not brought up to treat ladies that way (I guess that makes CH an exception). Yah, maybe they will try while they're dating but the moment they get hitched, all the chivalry fly out of the window.
We can't blame them actually cos women like us don't give them any opportunity. From Monday to Sunday, I open the car door myself, drive myself everywhere, gobble down my meals quickly, and then suddenly when I'm out on a date, I have to rely on my man to open the door, pull out a chair, carry my handbag and drive me home? Well, that's being pretentious.
That doesn't mean you men out there should stop being chivalrous. Just ignore me. I'm sure you don't want to lose points with your lady.